As an Energy Healer who specialises in Emotional Healing with The Emotion Code, I talk a lot about trapped emotions: in particular, what they are, how they get trapped and how to release them.
However, I have also been asked by many clients, who have cleared a load of trapped emotions, how they can prevent trapping more emotions in the future especially when “life just happens”. This is an interesting and practical concept and one that I have found a need for myself recently so here is my simple but essential 3 step guide to avoiding the energy of negative emotions from lodging in your body somewhere, causing you blockages, mal-function and illness.
We’re here to express ourselves at Soul level through our humanity and that involves embracing life and all it has to offer. You can read extensively about how we can prevent a lot of negative energy and emotions in the first place by choosing our friends carefully, learning to meditate to maintain more peace within and by generally avoiding negative situations and drama etc.
This is all very well but sometimes negative emotions still creep in and you know what, sometimes, even, they are meant to. Life is not about avoiding negative emotions all together – some, eg: grief, go hand in hand with positive emotions – so they cannot be avoided. It’s about knowing how to deal with them when they arise so their energy can pass through you and not get stuck.
Like all energy (including us) emotional energy wants to be acknowledged. It wants to be noticed, appreciated, maybe learned from, maybe acted upon but whatever else you do with it, it wants to be acknowledged.
Too often in our culture we are encouraged to hide our emotions – big boys don’t cry, stiff upper lip and pull yourself together etc. This is exactly how we stop negative energy from passing through our fields and causing it to lodge somewhere within us – only to cause us issues later in life.
Maybe we feel we shouldn’t feel a certain way because other people have it worse or maybe we judge ourselves too harshly by believing we shouldn’t feel a certain way.
But you know what – it doesn’t matter what other people are feeling or not feeling – comparing ourselves to others is never a good thing. And judging ourselves is just another form of self criticism, is it not? Another form of self-abuse and beating ourselves up. Definitely to be avoided at all costs.
Sometimes we just don’t want to admit to feeling a certain way eg: jealousy. Or maybe we just don’t like the feeling negative emotions give us and we choose to bury them so as not to feel them. But that’s the whole point of negative emotions – they have come to us to be felt. They have come to us for us to process. They have come to us as a message from our bodies, from our hearts – a message we need to heed in order to grow.
So allow yourself to feel the emotion. Don’t pretend for whatever reason that you’re not feeling them – they are part of your humanity. Give yourself permission to feel the sadness, the grief, the heartache, the jealousy, the pain whatever it is. Be kind to yourself.
Self-love here – always important. Give yourself the time, the solitude and the situation in which you can just sit and be so you can feel and acknowledge the sensations within. Verbalise it. Use an affirmation to focus your intention.
I allow myself to feel this pain.
I give myself permission to truly feel this pain.
I am ready and willing to feel this pain.
I am ready and willing to listen to my body now.
Please note that I am not suggesting a prolonged state of “wallowing” in one’s negative emotions here but a healthy amount of acknowledgement before moving onto the next step.
Like all energy – our emotional energy wants to move, it wants to flow. Like water it will go stagnant and bad if it is prevented from flowing. This is why it’s best to be on your own for this part. Most good friends, however well meaning they are, will encourage you to stop crying and it’s exactly this stopping of crying that is suppressing the emotional energy.
I often see my clients and guests crying – and, to be honest, I think of it as something to be celebrated – after all, the negative energy is coming out – it’s the most healing practice our bodies have – having a good cry. It’s literally energy in motion and that’s what we want. The energy moving out – passing through our energy fields.
So crying is the number one way to process the pain. Encourage the tears as you visualise the negative emotions moving through your body and releasing. There are a number of other ways we can process our negative emotions.
Writing in a journal is a favourite for many. Just find yourself a pen and paper and start writing. Write how you feel. Describe the emotions. Vent any feelings around the situation onto the paper. You can do it in the form of a letter to a specific person or even a letter to the Universe. Keep going, writing anything – whatever comes to mind. As you feel a wave of emotion, write it all down. As you feel the emotions begin to subside you can turn your writing into a gratitude list and start focusing on the positive.
In addition to writing your emotions out of you, you can also sing them out! Or dance them out – or in my case, Yoga them out! If you set your intention (sankalpa) before your yoga practice of processing these negative emotions you will find that, firstly, you may feel the need to cry during your practice and, secondly, that you will feel heaps better afterwards. Very cathartic.
Of course, all sports and physical activity can be cathartic as is painting, drawing etc So find your preferred outlet to process your negative emotions and you’ll even find it enjoyable to do so.
Releasing your negative emotions is pretty much dealt with during the processing stage but you can use affirmations and gratitude to confirm the release of certain emotions.
I release all negative energy from past experiences and let go of any toxic conclusions made.
I release all feelings of fear, sadness, grief, heartache, anxiety, despair…….now and set myself free.
I am grateful for the release of “this” emotional energy
Gratitude is a powerful energy. And as “time” is just a wibbly wobbly line in reality, we can use Gratitude in Advance which is super powerful.
Thank you for the release of this emotional energy. Thank you for the lessons and growth from this pain. I am grateful for its release now. All is well in my world.
And so it is.
Let me know how you get on. Please share your comments below and get in touch if you’d like help with releasing trapped emotions or coaching in how to do it for yourself.
Love and Blessings
I know this will either make you smile or cringe, right? Truly loving yourself is not easy and certainly not something you can achieve overnight and it’s not easy to “measure”. Some of you reading this may not even know if you truly love yourself or not. The best guideline is by looking into a mirror – can you look straight into your own eyes and say “I love you (your name)” ? Try it and you will probably respond in one of the following ways:
cringing big time
laughing out loud
wanting to cry
Needless to say, smiling broadly is the one that shows that you DO love yourself so if you responded this way – well done – congratulations!
The other 3 answers show that you’re either not quite there or far from it. The best and pioneering teacher for learning to love yourself is, of course, the lovely Louise Hay. Reading her book “You Can Heal Your Life” is a must (or watching the film of the same name) – there’s plenty of Mirror work and Affirmations.
The truth is that if you can’t truly love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to truly love you? And if you can’t truly love yourself, how can you truly love anyone else? Many of us have limiting and sabotaging sub conscious beliefs, for example, “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not worth loving”, so being able to release these and replace them with positive statements, for example, “I am worthy”, “I love and accept myself as I am”, “I am loving, lovable and loved”, is essential. Repeating Affirmations is definitely an effective way to do this even if the words do get stuck in your throat at first but they do take time. PSYCH K, on the other hand, is an amazing tool whereby we can literally change such limiting beliefs that do not serve us.
This is the one that often goes in one ear and out the other. Stop – think about it. I mean REALLY giving gratitude. I started “counting my blessings” a few years ago by just acknowledging my mother, sister and son in my life each day as I passed the wind chime in the hallway on my way out every morning. To be honest I didn’t think much about it but slowly over time I added people, then later things to the list of blessings to be counted. Then I started writing them down in a little notebook – the more I did this, the more the Universe gave me to be grateful for. It’s all about matching vibrations. If you complain and send out the negative vibrations of complaining, the Universe will match it by giving you more things to complain about. If you send out the positive vibrations of Gratitude – Like attracts Like – it’s Physics! The Universe has to match it and you will just keep getting more and more things to be grateful for. I’ve now got notebooks and journals full of my blessings – I find a quiet spot and a quiet moment – each page headed with the date and Today I am Grateful for: – the list goes on and on. Use your senses – what can you SEE that you’re grateful for? What can you SMELL? What can you HEAR? How do you FEEL? If you’re poorly or sick be grateful for the bits of you that are healthy. If you’re not happy with your body, be grateful for the bits you ARE happy with. Find SOMETHING to be grateful for……..the Universe will take it from there!
This is such an amazing tool to have – being able to tap into your subconscious mind to find out exactly what your body wants or needs in order to heal itself!
Everything is Energy – It’s Physics again! Energies (thoughts, emotions, food, substances, beliefs, etc) that are GOOD for us, and that our bodies NEED, make our bodies stronger and this is felt by our muscles literally getting stronger. The Energies from substances that our bodies DON’T want (try it with cigarettes or chocolate!!) will make our muscles weaker. If you are a beginner at this try The Sway test first. Stand up straight, relax and focus on something you love, that makes you feel good. Think of the word LOVE and your body will gently sway forwards. Now, change your thoughts to something negative – a violent event in your life or a war scene and the word HATE – see how your body reacts to the negativity. Does it sway backwards this time?
Muscle testing does take some practice and there are many different ways to test your muscle strength. My favourite is known as the Ring in Ring method and involves placing your fingers together as in the photo below and gently trying to pull them apart.
Practice by saying a true statement, for example, “My Name is ________” and feel the strength of your fingers. Now say a false name and feel how your fingers go weaker. It may feel just like a subtle difference at first – but a significant one. Now you can try it with some foods – try obviously bad foods first. Place chocolate, for example, on your chest (I stick things down my cleevage!) muscle test and acknowledge the strength of your muscles. Now try again with a piece of fruit. Can you FEEL the difference? Remember, we are just trying to measure the strength of our muscles to establish the difference between a positive and negative response. We are not trying to break through the fingers on purpose! We are acknowledging the difference in our muscle strength between a positive and negative response.
Every BODY is different and we can all develop food intolerances when we’re stressed so what’s good for one person may not be good for another. If you ONLY eat foods that you test POSITIVE for, your BODY will THANK YOU by making you FEEL SO much BETTER!
This skill is invaluable especially in today’s world of processed foods when, to be honest, we don’t really know what we’re eating!
FOOD is our MEDICINE and equally in today’s world FOOD is our POISON. Now you can self medicate on the RIGHT foods for YOUR body.
For more information on any of the above, or other Self Healing techniques, please email me at email@example.com.