Say “I can” to expand into who you really are!

“I can”

If you have been following my work for any length of time, you will know the importance I place on being able to muscle test yourself. The easiest way to do this is by using the Sway Test. I appreciate that most of you will be pretty confident by now with this amazing tool for communicating with your body, your sub-conscious and consciousness itself, so if you are already confident in using this amazing skill in your life then please skip the following instructions and join us again on the other side of them. If, however, Sway Testing is something new to you, here’s how to do it.

How to Sway Test 1. Stand upright with your feet hip width apart and your arms relaxed by your side. If you are a yogi, stand in Tadasana! 2. Face forward but close your eyes. Take a deep breath and allow it to go all the way down to your belly. Relax your shoulders and continue breathing slower and deeper. Feel your body naturally sway. You are made of energy and energy likes to move!! Even when standing still, feel the movement within your body. With your breath. With your thoughts. 3. Keeping your eyes closed and your body relaxed, take your attention to your feet and feel how you are involuntarily using the muscles of your feet to keep you upright. Lean forward a little to activate the muscles in your toes as they take more of your weight. Now activate your heels as you lean backwards. See how your feet work to keep you from falling. Focus on this because you will want to feel when you involuntarily lean forwards or backwards. 4. Now say your full, correct name…..”My name is…Full Name” – see where your body naturally wants to sway. Say the same now with a false name that means nothing to you. Where do you sway? 5. Say the word LOVE and bring to your mind visions of loving people, places and thoughts – where do you sway? 6. Bring to your mind the word HATE and visions of cruelty and violence towards you and others. Which way do you naturally sway? You can do the same with foods and other objects. For example, take an apple and hold it to your heart. Ask the question – is this apple good for my body? See which way your body moves. If the apple is good for your body, you will sway forwards. If not, you will sway backwards. Take some time to really breathe into your body and your awareness. Keep your body relaxed. Now do the same with your cigarettes/wine/beer/sugar/chocolate – is this “item” good for my body? Give yourself a few seconds to absorb the energy of the item/words/thoughts. Which way do you naturally sway? Our bodies naturally strengthen and sway forwards with energy that is good for us – positive energy. With energy that is congruent with our own energy. And our bodies naturally contract and weaken with energy that is not good for us. Think about it. When you smell something “good” or meet someone you love, you instinctively move towards them. However, when you walk into a room with a horrible smell, or someone you dislike intensly comes towards you – you instinctively contract and your body wants to draw away from their energy. Listen to your Body

OK so welcome back to those confident Sway Testers among you! Get ready to Sway Test yourself. Relax. Close your eyes. Inhale long and slow. Spend a few breaths tuning into your body and your body’s natural flow.What I want you to Sway test now is the words, “I can” and the words “I can’t”.Really feel the effect these words have on your body. Some of you may be able to feel the effect on every cell of your body. How do these words make you feel? With the clients and Yoga students I have been working with this summer, and with myself, of course, the feeling of expansion comes to every cell of the body when you say the words “I can”. Compare the feeling with the words “I can’t”. Can you feel your body and your cells contracting? The word expansion is key here.

You are probably aware of this galactic wave of new energy that has come in recently. It really is empowering us with all that we need to express ourselves at Soul Level or as I like to say to express our Divinity within our Humanity. It is quite literally enabling us to expand our consciousness. To expand into our Divinity. And this week’s Full Moon really marks the final releases needed in order to be the new you. The You who you came here to be! It has been the end of an energy cycle and we are presently at the beginning of a new, glorious energy cycle. It is bringing with it new ideas, new directions and new desires. You may well have found yourself getting excited by things you never thought would excite you. Where does this excitement come from?  It is the Universe speaking loud and clear to you.

However, I am still seeing among my clients, students and friends people ignoring this excitement. When I ask what is stopping them from doing what they love on a bigger scale, they always give me a sentence that starts with “I can’t” or “I am not..”. The world is full of nay sayers and people stuck in their comfort zone. Don’t let these people put you off. Disregard anything that comes out of your mouth or mind beginning with the words “I can’t” or “I am not”.  We have already seen from the sway test above – these words are not good for your body!!! These words are not in line with who you really are!! These words do not help you expand. If you would like some healing and help with installing positive beliefs please do get in touch. PSYCH K is an amazing belief changing modality that has helped many clients and retreat guests install empowering beliefs.

And please don’t worry about making mistakes. Look at them as ways to help you tune into your intuition more clearly. As Bob Ross says, “We don’t make mistakes, we just have happy little accidents”  Here’s a quote on the topic of mistakes from the man himself, Albert Einstein

Big ideas are coming in. Where do they come from? and more importantly, why have they come to you? these are the dreams to follow. Remember, you wouldn’t have had the dream or idea unless it was one you could bring to fruition. Go for it! Think BIG. Dream BIG. What is stopping you apart from the phrase “I can’t”? And we know that that is not good for you.

We See Things as We are…………..

I’ve written recently about the importance of questioning our beliefs. I am frequently amazed at how deep rooted our beliefs actually run within us. One of the beliefs that people seem to struggle with is the concept that every relationship in our life is a reflection of ourselves. Each person we encounter is reflecting back to us aspects of ourselves. Understanding this concept can be used as a learning and self-realisation process which can bring around amazing transformation and healing. This has become so clear to me lately, and has helped me find so much joy, peace and gratitude in so many areas of my life, on so many levels that I just had to share!

The more we learn to love ourselves, the more we find ourselves surrounded by loving people. Of course, this reality becomes so clear when we realise these loving souls are just reflecting our loving nature back to us. It’s all about self-love!!

The people that trigger us and push our buttons are in our life for the sole purpose of helping us see and acknowledge aspects of ourselves that we do not love. They help us see where we need healing.

Instead of getting angry, frustrated and irritated by them – seeing the bigger picture allows us to feel gratitude towards them as we take on board the valuable lesson within their difficult behaviour. 

 

What if we could take this one step further and apply it to other relationships we have in life………….. 

Like, for example, our relationship with money! 

What if our financial situation was merely just a reflection of our beliefs around money?

Of course it is. Suddenly it all makes sense, right?

Money, like everything else manifested in this physical world, is just energy and its presence or absence in our life, like everything else, is created through our own thoughts and beliefs. And as with people in our lives, we have stories about money too. Lots of stories about money. And they are just that – stories!! Not real. Not true and not relevant. Only thoughts that don’t serve us. Thoughts that we would feel a whole lot better not having!

If you believe you can’t afford something – you will be right! The words “Can’t afford” are energetically really harsh. Remember you are affirming your intentions with your words at all times. Instead you could say things like, “I will buy it another time” or “I don’t need whatever it is today” rather than “I can’t afford it”. Think about the emotions within you that come up when you think and say the words “I can’t afford it”. How does saying these words make you feel? What other thoughts pop into your head when you say the words “I can’t afford it”? Is there some resentment, bitterness or even anger? Is there some part of you giving your power away and viewing yourself as some sort of financial victim? 

It’s not about whether you can afford something or not. It’s about the emotions and thoughts you attach to not being able to afford something that do the damage. From an energy point of view, it is the emotions and thoughts around money that are keeping you from having more of it.

If you think people around you are greedy with their money – it will be a reflection of an aspect of yourself. If you feel that people around you are stingy, it, too, will be a reflection of some aspect of yourself on one level or another. Whatever uncomfortable feelings and thoughts you have about money, and other people and their money, will be a reflection. A sign that it is time for some financial healing as in releasing the fears, shame, guilt and hatred, for example, you feel towards money and/or the people that have it.  

If you haven’t read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, I strongly recommend that you do.  Understanding we only have the present moment – I mean really getting to grips with that reality, is life changing. If you are going to change your relationship with money, you have to do it in this moment because there is only ever this moment. There is no future. Tomorrow never comes. The future is always just a thought. We always think we don’t have enough money but that’s usually just because we never want to spend ALL we have. Because of thoughts and stories about needing it for “tomorrow”. 

Haven’t you ever noticed that, in fact, you always have enough? You always have enough for what you need? If you follow your intuition when spending and stop all the negative talk in your head about money and not having enough – you will see, in this moment – and that’s all we ever have – this present moment – you have everything you need. In fact, I would go as far as to say,  you probably have, right now, MORE than you need.  

“Galore, galore, I have everything I need and more” 

So let’s say you have (only) €200 in your bank account. I put the word “only” in brackets because for most people on the planet today, that is a fortune!! I read somewhere recently that if you have $3000 or more in savings, you are in the top 10% wealthiest people on the planet right now! Just saying!

Anyway, back to your €200. Would you spend €20 on a massage? Or a hair do? Or whatever else makes you feel good? Most people say no, they wouldn’t. When I ask why, they simply say, because I’ve only got €200!  But in reality, you can not only afford the massage, hair do or whatever, but you can afford it 10 times over. You actually have 10 x more money than you need!! 
 

 

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The Importance of Loving Yourself

“Love yourself like your life depends on it, because it does.”

“Our feelings about ourselves are actually the most important barometer for determining the condition of our lives.”

Anita Moorjani

 

The energy of Love is the most powerfully healing energy of all.  For this reason, when we raise our own vibrational frequency to that of love, we find profound healing on all levels, especially the soul.

The truth is by learning to love yourself, you are more able to find love in others and in everything around you. It makes sense if you think about it. How can you truly love anyone or anything else, if you cannot first love yourself? Or more to the point, how can you expect anyone else to truly love you if you cannot love yourself? The whole idea of loving others more than you love yourself is energetically out of balance. Energy likes to move in circles and likes to be balanced. Your giving and receiving need to be equal if you are to feel true peace and happiness within your soul. If you give more than you receive, you will end up giving from a place of lack and this doesn’t help anyone. I like the analogy with the oxygen mask on an aeroplane. You are always advised to fit your own oxygen mask first, so you can attend to others from a place of strength. There is nothing to be gained by depleting yourself to help others. There is what I call the Selfish jump to get over. It is important to nurture and love yourself and cater to your own needs first. This may seem selfish at first. But it is not selfish. It provides you with the energetic resources you need to give more of yourself. You are, in fact, helping others to a greater extent and able to give more to more people, if you first receive what you need. So, you owe it to others, to put yourself first!

So now you have decided to put yourself first and start showing yourself some much needed love. But where do you start?  More often than not, you have put your own needs on the back burner. You have probably forgotten about them and lost sight of them.  How can you start on this journey of self-Love?

Remember it is all about making yourself feel good. It’s all about surrounding yourself with the energy of love.

In my opinion, the first thing to do is find yourself a few powerful affirmations to repeat, write, recite every morning, noon and night. I recommend learning your affirmations by heart, so you can repeat them while washing the dishes, cleaning your teeth, while taking the dog for a walk, driving to work…you get the picture. I always think eight is a good number for affirmations. Too many at once and you won’t remember them all and too few and you won’t transform so quickly.

Now for a quick lesson in Sway Testing so you can test how much you resonate with certain affirmations and beliefs. Affirmations are basically beliefs. So, standing upright with your feet shoulder width apart, arms by your side and your shoulders relaxed, close your eyes and turn your attention to the subtle, slight, involuntary movements of your body. Take deep, slow breaths as you focus on tuning into your body’s natural flow of energy. Repeat the affirmation “I love and accept myself completely”. Wait a few seconds for the energy of the words to penetrate your energy field and see which way you sway.

You may need to focus on the muscles in your feet as you do this at first.  Obviously the muscles in our feet are well trained to keep us upright so focus on whether you are subconsciously using the muscles in your feet to stop you from swaying forward or backwards. Repeat the belief again. Try and connect with the energy of the words you are saying. Where do you sway? If you sway forwards, you already resonate with this belief. If you hover, then it’s an affirmation you could certainly use and if you sway backwards, then it’s an affirmation you need to add to your list.

The classic “I love and accept myself completely” should always be in your list, even when you test positive to it. Once you resonate with the energy of really, truly and unconditionally loving and accepting yourself, you will find it an absolute joy to repeat these words to yourself so enjoy it!

However, if this classic “I love and accept myself completely” affirmation doesn’t resonate with you at all yet, then why not try “I’m willing to love and accept myself”. Even if you haven’t mastered the technique of sway testing yet, you can usually “feel” how much the energy of an affirmation resonates with you. Some people feel a lump in their throat as they repeat the words. This is the body wanting to release whatever sadness, or other negative emotion, it is that is stopping you from loving and accepting yourself completely. Some people want to cry which is great because this is your body releasing the negative energy stopping you from loving yourself. Some people burst out laughing as they say these words, which, of course, is a defence mechanism to the negative emotions coming up. Saying your affirmations in front of a mirror will be more powerful. It really is a process so please don’t give up.

Other super healing self-love affirmations include:

• I am lovable
• I deserve to be loved
• I am worthy
• I trust myself
• I accept my imperfections as opportunities to learn valuable lessons in my life
• I have confidence in myself

See how these affirmations make you sway or feel. Remember, the less you resonate with them, the more you need them in your daily list.

Repeat your list of affirmations at every opportunity.  Write them down. Especially at the full moon. Make them part of your daily behaviour and routine. Soon you will begin to enjoy them. They will start feeling more comfortable. Keep going. This is seriously one of the most healing things you could do for yourself.

Expressing gratitude is also an effective route to self-love. Give gratitude for all the things in your life that you love. Write a list of everything you love about your life, your job, your friends, your family, your home, your pets, your health etc! Keep this going until you feel “fluent” in pouring out your love. Then progress to writing a list of all the things you love about yourself. No one is going to read it so just go with it. Even if they are not strictly true yet. Maybe they are your desires. Write them down anyway, as if you really loved those aspects of yourself already. As if they were fact. Keep it going….you will soon see a difference.

Another way to express love for yourself is to think about what you would like to receive from others as signs of love. Maybe buy yourself a potted plant. Treat yourself to a meal in your favourite restaurant for no reason except you love yourself and you are worth it. What else do you associate with being treated?  A massage maybe? Give yourself permission to book in regular massages or other treatments usually reserved for special occasions. Show yourself the same level of love, respect and kindness that you would show a loved one. Be your own best friend.

Self-massage infused with love really works wonders on building one’s Self Love. Using your favourite aromas and essential oils, massage your body slowly and lovingly remembering to give gratitude and love to each body part as you go. Allowing yourself the time to do such acts of Self Love sends a signal to your subconscious that you are worthy and deserving which, in itself, is healing. The infusion of love and gratitude energy will raise your vibrations. It’s a relaxing, healing and healthy way to express self-love. Say lovely things to and about yourself as you work around your body. Even if the compliments are half-hearted in the beginning, it will get you in the energy flow of appreciating different aspects of yourself. It’s all about that energy flow!

My final suggestion here, to raise your self-love, is to show random acts of kindness to others. I love this one. You don’t need to receive anything in return and in some cases the recipients may not even know the kindness came from you. Try it and see. Just offer random acts of kindness to the next person you see that would benefit. This is one of our Soul’s main purposes in life and one of the best ways to heal it. Giving, receiving and sharing the energy of love.

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If you would like help with installing the life-changing belief of loving and accepting yourself completely, then please do get in touch to book a private PSYCH K healing session with me. Or maybe you need to install more positive beliefs surrounding money so you can attract your financial abundance?

I offer a Free 30 minute Consultation Session by phone or Skype to discuss your personal needs and which healing path is best for you at this stage of your spiritual journey.

Love and Blessings

deborah@deborahjanesutton.com

The Evolution of the Soul: your path to greater Forgiveness and Acceptance

Forgiveness and acceptance seem to be a stumbling block for many people on their healing and spiritual journey and there has been much written about the need to forgive others and/or accept situations.

Of course, forgiveness is not about condoning the behaviour of others, nor is it initially about making the perpetrators feel better – although, this can be a worthy second step to forgiveness.

The first step to forgiveness, is, however, all about you, your health and your energy. When there is a need to forgive, the chances are that there are trapped emotions of anger, resentment, bitterness, heartache, guilt, blaming, frustration, jealousy, humiliation, betrayal, abandonment……the list goes on. It is these trapped emotions that are the problem – releasing these is where you will find the relief and energetic shift you seek.

As Mark Twain said,

“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”

So, step one, releasing trapped emotions.   What is a trapped emotion?    The Emotion Code

Step two to Forgiveness and Acceptance comes from Understanding.  Understanding raises Awareness. Awareness puts everything into perspective. And I believe this awareness can be found at Soul Level and comes from understanding the Soul, its journey and its evolution.  Understanding the different stages of Soul Evolution shines a new light on, not just your life, but the world around you.

There are many versions of the different stages in life. Some referring to the stages within a single incarnation. Others referring to the stages of the Soul throughout all its incarnations. And some referring to both. Some relate to the Chakras of our energetic body. Some relate to levels of consciousness.

The Soul Age Stages here relate to stages of the soul throughout all its incarnations.

We first incarnate as infant souls and through a series of choices, lessons and experiences over the course of many life times we evolve. We haven’t always been nice people which some people don’t like to hear but it makes perfect sense as we have been learning and growing from our experiences and choices along the way and that’s what it’s all about. There is no judgement here – of yourself or others.  You wouldn’t judge a baby for not being able to feed itself and you wouldn’t expect a toddler to be able to drive a car. Keeping this idea in mind will really help you understand some of the difficult people you encounter in life.

As Jesus said,

“Forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

 

Infant Souls deal with issues of survival. Life is primitive and usually focuses on fear.  These souls flourish in simple environments close to nature. Infant souls focus on being alive and their learning experiences include survival, physicality, mortality and environmental awareness. Infant souls have no concept of wrong doing so without the loving guidance from older souls who can teach them right from wrong, they may react violently to perceived threats and commit anti-social and immoral acts. They are purely instinctive. Untarnished by culture. Without conscience and fearful of life.

Baby Souls have a need for structure and they tend to follow beliefs based on dogma.  They love following and enforcing rules, such as religious rules. Baby souls focus on belonging to a culture and their learning experiences include rules, roles, law and order, crime and punishment and social awareness. They are typically moral and law-abiding citizens but suffer from rigid thinking. They thrive when surrounded by like-minded souls and can be very community orientated but have difficulty accepting others who do not follow their dogma and can become judgemental.  They are conformists.

Young Souls are very success orientated and set high standards of personal achievement. They are goal setters and goal getters. They recognise their personal power and are very assertive. Their experience of life is competitive, industrious, restless and independent. Winning is important to them and they want to leave an impact on society. They value their personal power but view it as something unique to them and tend to separate themselves this way. Young souls focus on being a free agent and are here to learn independence, self-advancement, personal achievement and free will.

Mature Souls are emotional and relationship orientated. Their focus is on their inner world and exploring self-awareness. They are empathic and reflective. Their experience of life is self-aware, emotionally dramatic and intense.  They question everything, have a growing understanding of self and are literally soul searching. Mature souls tend to focus on co-existence with others and their learning experiences include interdependence, relationships, empathy, intimacy and self-awareness. These souls are far happier when they can be good, and share good and they crave to live in a loving world.

Old Souls seek the bigger picture and tend not to be materialistic.  They are more detached and have a live and let live approach to life. Their experience of life is relaxed, philosophical and spiritually minded.  They are a source of wisdom. They appear untroubled and stable although they can have problems integrating into a society that does not follow Divine laws.  Old souls focus on being part of all that is and are here to learn, among other things, autonomy, non-attachment, wise counsel and spiritual awareness.

Soul ages and levels of consciousness are not two of the same. You can be a mature soul, for example, stuck at a certain level of consciousness. It’s all about what you came here to experience. However, the levels of consciousness can be characterised and summarised in a similar fashion. This serves the purpose of raising your awareness so that you can, not only, better understand yourself and your present path but also better understand those around you. This, in itself, helps develop tolerance, forgiveness, acceptance and non-attachment. It also helps to not take things personally which, in my experience, opens the door to greater inner peace and happiness.

Levels of Consciousness

Our consciousness can be compared to a lens through which we view and perceive the world. As we raise our consciousness we change the lens and our perceptions change causing a change in our reality. The perceptions, beliefs, mindsets and values we hold right now are a result of the consciousness we are operating in. Whenever we experience a shift in our consciousness, we are actually breaking away from our old consciousness and as a result, away from our old belief systems and attitudes.

Your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, values and actions reflect the level of consciousness that you are vibrating at. While the object you are observing, whether it be your life, world events, a person or a situation, can remain the same, just having a different consciousness level, and therefore perception, causes your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, values and actions to be widely different. This explains the famous quotation by Dr Wayne Dyer, about changing what you see by changing the way you look at it. For example, what do you see when faced with the playground bully? Do you see a nasty piece of work who needs to be taught a lesson by having a taste of his own medicine? Or do you see an angry and hurt child who is just crying out to be accepted and loved?  How do you view failure? Something to bring you down and shake your confidence? Or something to learn from and raise your motivation?

 

Adapted from Dr David Hawkin’s Scale of Consciousness

 

Level/Emotion	Level of Vibration
Enlightenment (Purple – 7th Chakra)	700 – 1000
Peace/Bliss (Indigo – 6th Chakra)	600
Joy/Serenity (Indigo – 6th Chakra)	540
Love/Reverence (Blue – 5th Chakra)	500
Reason/Understanding (Blue – 5th Chakra)	400
Acceptance/Forgiveness  (Green – 4th Chakra)	350
Willingness/Optimism  (Green – 4th Chakra)	310
Neutrality/Trust  (Green – 4th Chakra)	250
Courage/Affirmation  (Yellow – 3rd Chakra)	200
Anger/Hate   (Orange – 2nd Chakra)	150
Desire/Craving  (Orange – 2nd Chakra)	125
Fear/Anxiety  (Orange – 2nd Chakra)	100
Grief/Regret   (Red – 1st Chakra)	75
Apathy/Despair  (Red – 1st Chakra)	50
Guilt/Blame  (Red – 1st Chakra)	30
Shame/Humiliation   (Red – 1st Chakra)	20

 

Where someone falls on this chart will depend on their over-riding emotion. That is to say, their natural state of being.  We can all feel angry sometimes or even guilty but that does not mean it’s our over-riding state of being.

So at the bottom of the chart we have shame and guilt; the two emotions with the lowest frequency.  People with this level of awareness will experience a lot of blame and humiliation in their lives. Moving up the chart you can see apathy accompanies a feeling of despair. Apathy being, of course, when one doesn’t care about anything. People at this stage of the chart are usually depressed and struggling to take action. They feel like life is against them and they are often stuck in victimhood. Anger comes considerably higher, which surprises many people but if you think about it, you have to care about things to get angry. Caring is good! We often view anger as such a negative emotion, but on reflection, it’s a very healthy stage to go through.  It shows you want to change things and leads the way to courage, willingness and optimism.

I have found, while running the Heal yourself to Happiness Retreats, that my guests usually fall in this green area. That is to say the Heart Chakra area.  Often, just the intention and action of coming on the Retreat is healing for them.  It clearly shows they are both willing and optimistic and have dragged themselves out of a state of neutrality. This becomes very evident when what they are working on is very often acceptance and forgiveness. This paves the way for them to move into the blue level, that of the throat chakra where they find themselves with a need and a desire to express themselves. Not only verbally by being assertive and authentic but also at soul level by acknowledging and using their gifts and innate soul characteristics.  This is where the journey within really begins. At least, on a conscious level.

As we approach the level of love and joy on the chart, we start to see the world with new eyes and a heart full of love and compassion for all living beings of consciousness. We see beauty and miracles everywhere.  We can reason. Understand. Accept. And forgive. There is a peace which resides within. The peace and bliss at level 600 and above is found in the likes of the Dalai Lama, Gandhi, Eckhart Tolle and Mother Theresa to name a few, although it should be pointed out that, as energy, we are always changing and thinking and it is therefore possible to move both up and down the chart at any given time. Each thought has a frequency as does each action.  According to Dr David Hawkins, Adolf Hitler went from 450 to 45 during the course of his life time.

Without judgement, you can now hopefully, not only see where you are on your Soul’s journey, but also understand that others do not and can not have the same view point, beliefs and goals as you do.  As I said at the beginning – you wouldn’t expect an infant to have the same priorities as an adult. We readily accept that young children don’t share our abilities. We don’t judge them – we just offer them love to help them grow. Likewise we can forgive ourselves and accept love from others to help us grow.  It really is the same thing.

Looking at this chart really brings it home, the importance of raising your vibrations. Not only for your own health, happiness and success but also for the sake of the planet. Dr David Hawkins provides some interesting figures in his book Power vs Force (1994). He says that the overall level of human consciousness tests as being just over 200, and only 4% of the population test over 500 and 1 in 10 million over 600. He goes on to claim that just over 2% of the population generate 72% of society’s problems. However, here is the best motivation to raise your vibrations: one individual at level 400 counterbalances 400,000 individuals vibrating below level 200. One individual at 500 counterbalances 750,000 below level 200 and one individual at level 600 counterbalances 10 million below level 200.

So now you can see that by pouring anger and other negative emotions onto wrong doers will only serve to keep their vibrations low as well as lower your own vibrations.  What’s the point of that?  Only love can help them raise their vibrations. And only love will help you raise yours.

So you can also see that raising your own vibrations and keeping yourself feeling good is paramount if you want to heal the world. Look after yourself, do what your heart desires and make yourself feel as good and as excited as you can as often as you can.  It’s not selfishness. It’s love. And it will help raise the consciousness of the whole planet!

In my conclusion on the subject of the Stages of Soul Evolution and Consciousness Levels, I relate each level to a corresponding belief.

 

1. A belief that the world is not a safe place and that it operates on a dog eat dog basis.
2. A belief that there is a higher power but that it is separate from you and you have no control over it. eg. most religions/fate
3. A belief in your own power to change things but that power is your own personal, individual power.
4. A belief in the power of love.
5. A belief in one’s higher self and a power that comes from its connection to the Universe.
6. A belief that we are all pure consciousness within our individuated human bodies.

 

“You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the entire ocean in a drop.”

Rumi

Or, as I like to think, we are the whole universe in one body.

This is a summary of Chapter 3 from my second book Heal your Soul: A Simple Guide to Understanding and Healing yourself on a Spiritual Level to create greater Health, Happiness and Success

Deborah Jane Sutton

Heal yourself to Happiness

How to Change the Way you Think (with PSYCH K®)

Everything is energy. I know I’ve said it before and I’m sure it won’t be the last time I refer back to this fact.  Why?  Because when we view everything as energy, it makes healing, especially energy healing, so much easier to understand. Greater understanding leads to greater awareness and greater awareness leads to greater healing and abundance.

So everything is energy including our thoughts and beliefs. Negative thoughts and beliefs vibrate at a low frequency and are toxic to our bodies. Positive thoughts, on the other hand, are high vibrating and, by the law of attraction (“Like attracts Like”) attract more positive energy to you in the form of people, experiences, desires etc

Sometimes we are aware of our negative thinking, especially when we’re beating ourselves up with negative self talk. However, much of the time we are not aware of our deep rooted beliefs.  These are the beliefs we take for granted and have never questioned and these are the beliefs we were programmed with at an early age by parents/teachers/society etc.  These are the sub-conscious beliefs.

Psychological Kinesiology (PSYCH-K®) is the simplest and easiest way to reprogram your subconscious mind in order to change the negative beliefs and habits that are not serving you and thus creating positive beliefs and opportunities to improve every area of your life.

Our beliefs are the foundation of who we are.  These beliefs are the result of lifelong “programming,” and represent a powerful influence on human behaviour.  It is from our beliefs that we form attitudes about the world and ourselves, and from these attitudes we develop behaviours and habits.

Beliefs have far-reaching consequences, both positive and negative, in every area of our life. They affect our mood, relationships, job performance, self-esteem and even physical health. It is so important that we learn how to identify beliefs that are limiting us and how to change them into beliefs that support us.

Our beliefs (or attitudes, values, etc.) are drawn from past experiences and stored in the subconscious mind. While we may be mostly unaware of their influence on us, they “direct” our actions and behaviours. These subconscious beliefs create a perceptual filter through which we respond to life’s challenges. They form the basis for our actions and reactions to each new situation in our lives.

The ability to perform effectively, both personally and professionally is profoundly affected by such beliefs as “I am good enough”, “I am safe”, “I am worthy and deserving” or “I am prosperous”.  Beliefs establish the limits of what we can achieve. As Henry Ford famously once said, “If you think you can or if you think you can’t…you’re right!” This is especially true when the beliefs are subconscious.

 

“If you think you can or if you think you can’t…you’re right!”

                                                                                                                              Henry Ford

 

Why are beliefs so important?

 

Because our beliefs establish the limits of what we can get!

Gandhi said …

• Your beliefs become Your Thoughts
• Your thoughts become Your Words
• Your words become Your Actions
• Your actions become your habits
• Your habits become your values
• Your values ​​become your Destiny

 

Most of us agree, and behavioural scientists confirm, that our behaviours are a direct reflection of our beliefs, perceptions and values, generated from past experiences. Scientific research has also found that the human cell actually stores memory and is capable of being reprogrammed. This is where the PSYCH-K® process does change lives.

Developed by Robert M. Williams, M.A in 1988, it was tested extensively for 10 years before being offered to the public. Using Kinesiology, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Acupressure, and various healing systems, PSYCH-K® is a safe, non-invasive, effective way to dissolve resistance to change at the subconscious level.

How does Psych-K® work?

Basically, PSYCH-K® increases the “cross-talk” between the two brain hemispheres, thus  achieving a more “whole-brained” state. This is ideal for changing subconscious beliefs and facilitates communication with both the conscious and the subconscious minds to change old sabotaging belief patterns into supportive ones. The subconscious mind accumulates and records information at over 40 million bits per second, storing memories in a timeless manner while the conscious part of our brain processes data at only 2000 bits per second and has a limited, 20-second memory capacity.

So if you have a subconscious belief that “you’re not good enough” or “you’re not worthy of the best that love and life has to offer,” it’s generating at 40 million bits per second. The conscious mind, running at 2000 bits per second, usually cannot compete. It then creates conflict between the conscious and subconscious minds resulting in stress in the cells. This stress compromises the immune system and creates dis-ease in the body. Through a series of specific balances, strategic body positioning, affirmations, and visualizations designed to bridge the right and left hemispheres of the brain, the self-limiting belief is re-scripted at the level of the subconscious until reprogramming is complete.

This process is rooted in biological mechanics. If you want to read more about this and the science behind PSYCH K®, Dr Bruce Lipton, PhD, in his book The Biology of Belief, has scientific data linking the biology of beliefs and the psychology of change.

 

Using Muscle Testing (Kinesiology), we can identify which positive beliefs are not in alignment with the subconscious mind.  People don’t always know which negative beliefs they are hanging onto that are most sabotaging their success in life.  Being able to identify these is key. Obviously, as they are subconscious beliefs,  people are not aware of them. The first step of identifying the most limiting negative beliefs is, in itself, a major eye opener for some.

I have seen first hand at our Heal yourself to Happiness Retreats, on a number of occasions, the power of installing positive beliefs with this method.  It can be quite emotional because at every stage of the process you are, quite literally, releasing the energy of the negative belief that has been denying the counter positive belief.

This is especially healing and life changing when installing the beliefs “I am worthy” and “I love and accept myself completely.”

 

Message me to book your appointment now and change your life through the power of self-love and PSYCH K®

Deborah Jane Sutton

deborah@deborahjanesutton.com

 

 

¿Qué es PSYCH K®?

La kinesiología psicológica (PSYCH-K®) es la forma más simple de reprogramar la mente subconsciente para poder cambiar las creencias y lo hábitos negativos que no nos están ayudando, y crear en vez, creencias y oportunidades positivas para mejorar todas la áreas de la vida.

Nuestras creencias son la base de quienes somos. Estas creencias son el resultado de la programación de toda una vida, y representan una potente influencia sobre el comportamiento humano. Son nuestras creencias las que crean nuestra actitud ante la vida, y ante nosotros mismo, y de esta actitud desarrollamos nuestro comportamiento y nuestros hábitos. Las creencias tienen consecuencias a largo plazo, tanto positivas como negativas, en todas las áreas de la vida. Afectan a nuestro humor, a nuestras relaciones, al rendimiento profesional, a la auto estima e incluso a la salud física. Es muy importante que aprendamos a identificar las creencias que nos limitan, y a cómo transformarlas en creencias que nos apoyan.

Nuestras creencias (actitud, valores, etc.), son extraídas de experiencias del pasado que han sido almacenadas en la mente subconsciente. Aunque no seamos conscientes de su influencia sobre nosotros, dirigen nuestras acciones y nuestro comportamiento. Estas creencias subconscientes crean un filtro a través del cual respondemos a los retos que nos encontramos en la vida. Ellas forman la base de nuestras acciones y reacciones a cada nueva situación de la vida. La habilidad para actuar de forma efectiva, tanto personal como profesionalmente, está en gran medida afectada por creencias como “soy suficiente”, “Estoy seguro”, “Soy valioso y merecedor de cosas buenas” o “Soy próspero”. Las creencias establecen los límites de lo que podemos conseguir. Como decía la famosa frase de Henry Ford, “Tanto si crees que puedes, como si crees que no puedes… tienes razón” Esto es especialmente cierto cuando las creencias son subconscientes.

De acuerdo con Bruce Lipton PhD, biólogo celular y reconocido autor de, “La Biología de la Creencia.” Y “El Efecto Luna de Miel”, el mayor obstáculo para obtener el éxito es la programación subconsciente de creencias que nos limitan.

¿Por qué son las creencias tan importantes.

¡Porque nuestras creencias establecen los límites de lo que podemos conseguir!

Gandhi dijo …

• Tus creencias se convierten en Tus Pensamientos.
• Tus pensamientos se convierten en Tus Palabras.
• Tus palabras se convierten en Tus Acciones.
• Tus acciones se convierten en Tus Hábitos.
• Tus hábitos se convierten en Tus Valores.
• Tus valores se convierten en Tu Destino.

La mayoría de nosotros estamos de acuerdo, y los científicos que estudian el comportamiento están lo afirman, que nuestro comportamiento es un reflejo directo de nuestras creencias, percepciones y valores, generados por experiencias pasadas. Los estudios científicos también han demostrado que las células humanas tienen capacidad para almacenar información y también tienen la capacidad de ser programadas. Aquí es donde entra el PSYCH-K® y su capacidad para cambiar vidas. Fue desarrollado por Robert M. Williams, M.A en 1988, y lo probó durante 10 años antes de hacerlo público. Usando la kinesiología, la Programación Neurolingüística (NLP), Digitopuntura, y otros sistemas de sanación, el PSYCH-K® se convierte en una forma segura, no invasiva y efectiva de disolver la resistencia al cambio a nivel subconsciente.

¿Cómo funciona Psych-K®?

Fundamentalmente, el PSYCH-K® incrementa la comunicación entre ambos hemisferios del cerebro, consiguiendo así un estado más “integrado-mental”. Esto es idóneo para cambiar creencias subconscientes y facilitar la comunicación entre la mente subconsciente y la consciente para cambiar viejos patrones de creencias perjudiciales, y convertirlas en creencias que apoyan a la persona. La mente subconsciente acumula y guarda información a una velocidad de 40 millones de bits por segundo, y almacena esta información de forma permanente, mientras que la parte consciente de nuestro cerebro que procesa la información va a 2000 bits por segundo y tiene una capacidad de memoria de 20 segundos.

Así que si tienes una creencia subconsciente que dice: “No eres lo bastante bueno.” O “No te mereces lo mejor que el amor y la vida te pueden ofrecer”, se está generando a 40 millones de bits por segundo. La mente consciente, que va a 2000 bits por segundo, no puede hacerle frente. Entonces crea un conflicto entre la mente consciente y la subconsciente lo que produce estrés a nivel celular. Este estrés pone en peligro el buen funcionamiento del sistema inmunológico y crea enfermedad en el cuerpo. A través de una serie de equilibrios específicos, posiciones estratégicas corporales, afirmaciones, y visualizaciones diseñadas para crear un puente entre los dos hemisferios cerebrales, las creencias limitantes se pueden re-escribir a nivel subconsciente hasta reprogramarlas por completo.

La kinesiología puede ser muy precisa a la hora de detectar verdades subconscientes, como también para detectar estrés en el cuerpo. Ya que la mente subconsciente controla el sistema motriz del cuerpo, como el movimiento de los músculos, este mecanismo “integrado” nos proporciona información muy acertada sobre si el subconsciente está o no de acuerdo con una afirmación sobre una creencia concreta. Este proceso nace de la biología mecánica.

 

Dr. Bruce Lipton, PhD, en su libro La Biología de la Creencia, posee información científica que une a la biología de las creencias con el cambio psicológico. El PSYCH-K®  permite y proporciona la capacidad de tomar control sobre la vida. Cambiando la programación, creas la vida que deseas, de forma rápida, sin esfuerzo y sin la necesidad de tomar medicamentos o psicoterapia.

 

 

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How The Emotion Code Changed my Life

Physically:

The first of my “physical” issues to be healed by The Emotion Code (Energy Healing System) was my underactive Thyroid Gland.  I had been told 8 years previously that I would need to take medication for the rest of my life to raise my level of Thyroxine.  With one session of The Emotion Code and with the release of 5 trapped emotions* my Thyroid Gland was balanced and from that day on produced “normal levels” of thyroxine.

Personally I found it a real relief to be drug free – it has saved me a lot of time visiting doctors, repeat prescriptions and going to the Pharmacy!  We should all strive to avoid pharmaceutical drugs if we can, don’t you think?

(*For further information on “What is a Trapped Emotion” and “inherited trapped emotions” click here.)

The second “physical” issue was eczema.  I have written the word “physical” in inverted commas because as we can see, these “physical” ailments actually had an “emotional” cause.  Anyway, the eczema would flare up when I was overtired or stressed and would appear in little patches on the back of my neck.

Well, while using the Emotion Code to release the underlying cause of the eczema a few trapped emotions came up as well as an inherited trapped emotion* from my maternal gene line which is no surprise really because both my mother and grandmother suffered from the same eczema patch when they were stressed.

Another “physical” issue healed with the Emotion Code was one of weight.  We can use The Emotion Code to release the underlying causes of weight too.  I should point out that there are many ways to release trapped emotions but in my opinion The Emotion Code is the fastest, most thorough and most effective.  A session of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), however, helped me release some intense emotions which kick started my weight loss and further sessions using The Emotion Code enabled the weight loss to continue – 20 kilos in total!

It’s not so much weight loss that occurs but rather I lost the need to eat so much – I became very aware of when I had eaten enough and was physically full whereas before I had been trying to satisfy my emotional hunger not just my physical hunger and I couldn’t tell the difference.   Now, if I find myself overeating I realise it’s an emotional issue and can use The Emotion Code to release the relevant trapped emotions.

 

Emotionally:

Sometimes we are aware that we have trapped emotions, for example, of grief when someone we love dies.  We have all seen (and some of us felt) the process when grief takes its course but when we think we may not have processed it all completely The Emotion Code is ideal for releasing emotions still trapped and lodged in our bodies long after our loss.  Also, from any traumatic experiences we know we’ve been scarred from eg divorce, war (PTSD), violent scenes, bullying.

 

I have used The Emotion Code to release unprocessed emotions from traumas in my life including grief when my father died.  Sometimes we don’t know we’ve trapped emotions from certain events in our life and often I find people deny they have trapped emotions, almost as if it’s some kind of weakness to have them.  EVERYBODY has trapped emotions – you can trap an emotion after losing your favourite toy as an infant, from anxiety on your first day at school, from a parent or teacher raising their voice at you – everybody has them!  And once we’ve trapped one, other emotions of the same vibrational frequency will be attracted so causing a blockage to the natural healing energy of the body.  This is how mal-function and illness occur.

I used to experience panic attacks whenever I got on a plane or found myself in places where I couldn’t get out.  This issue took a few sessions to heal completely and was finally resolved after releasing trapped emotions of Panic and Shock from previous lives.  (Weird but true!)

I’m going to include The Heart Wall here – under “Emotionally”.  Once bitten twice shy.  We all protect ourselves by building a Wall around our Hearts.  They can be very effective at keeping pain and heartbreak out but unfortunately they work both ways and keep us from feeling TRUE love and joy and this, by the Law of Attraction, prevents us from attracting TRUE love and joy into our hearts.

Once I had released my Heart Wall using The Emotion Code I learned how to love myself (this is a BIG one for anyone who wants to Heal anything and move forward with their life) and with this new raised vibration of love and joy I attracted my, now, husband into my life!   I have seen this happen for so many of my clients too, when their Heart Walls have been removed.  I love it!

 

Releasing blocks to moving forward in life:

When using the Emotion Code we can ask simply if there are any blocks to receiving, having, earning, keeping money or any blocks to moving forward, fulfilling our purpose, realising our dreams etc  Sometimes we may need to refer to The Body Code as these can often be limiting subconscious beliefs that we picked up in childhood eg I’m not worthy, money is the root of all evil, I can’t………………….etc  But very often it is FEAR which holds us back and this can be released with The Emotion Code.  Fear of the unknown, fear of trusting in the process of life, fear of failure – there are many kinds of fear holding us back.

When I wanted to give up my day job to concentrate on my passion, my calling which is to Heal and teach Healing techniques I was overwhelmed with “fear”.  How will I make ends meet?  What if I fail?  I used The Emotion Code to release this inevitable fear and other trapped emotions when I took my “Leap of Faith”.  It was exciting, challenging and I felt the need to stay focussed but I wasn’t fearful and I have certainly NEVER regretted it!

The Emotion Code really has changed all areas of my life for the better.  I often turn to it to raise my vibrations or in times of need and not just for me.  My family members have also improved their health with Emotion Code sessions. Even the dog is no longer scared of the vet!

 

for more information on The Emotion Code and how it can help you, please get in touch deborah@deborahjanesutton.com

Love and Blessings

xx

3 Steps to Releasing Emotional Energy (and not trapping it)

As an Energy Healer who specialises in Emotional Healing with The Emotion Code, I talk a lot about trapped emotions:  in particular,  what they are, how they get trapped and how to release them.

However, I have also been asked by many clients, who have cleared a load of trapped emotions, how they can prevent trapping more emotions in the future especially when “life just happens”.  This is an interesting and practical concept and one that I have found a need for myself recently so here is my simple but essential 3 step guide to avoiding the energy of negative emotions from lodging in your body somewhere, causing you blockages, mal-function and illness.

1.  Acknowledgment

We’re here to express ourselves at Soul level through our humanity and that involves embracing life and all it has to offer. You can read extensively about how we can prevent a lot of negative energy and emotions in the first place by choosing our friends carefully, learning to meditate to maintain more peace within and by generally avoiding negative situations and drama etc.

This is all very well but sometimes negative emotions still creep in and you know what, sometimes, even, they are meant to.  Life is not about avoiding negative emotions all together – some, eg: grief,  go hand in hand with positive emotions – so they cannot be avoided. It’s about knowing how to deal with them when they arise so their energy can pass through you and not get stuck.

Like all energy (including us) emotional energy wants to be acknowledged.  It wants to be noticed, appreciated, maybe learned from, maybe acted upon but whatever else you do with it, it wants to be acknowledged.

Too often in our culture we are encouraged to hide our emotions – big boys don’t cry, stiff upper lip and pull yourself together etc.  This is exactly how we stop negative energy from passing through our fields and causing it to lodge somewhere within us – only to cause us issues later in life.

Maybe we feel we shouldn’t feel a certain way because other people have it worse or maybe we judge ourselves too harshly by believing we shouldn’t feel a certain way.

But you know what – it doesn’t matter what other people are feeling or not feeling – comparing ourselves to others is never a good thing.  And judging ourselves is just another form of self criticism, is it not?  Another form of self-abuse and beating ourselves up. Definitely to be avoided at all costs.

Sometimes we just don’t want to admit to feeling a certain way eg: jealousy. Or maybe we just don’t like the feeling negative emotions give us and we choose to bury them so as not to feel them. But that’s the whole point of negative emotions – they have come to us to be felt.  They have come to us for us to process. They have come to us as a message from our bodies, from our hearts – a message we need to heed in order to grow.

“Denying yourself the experience of pain is denying yourself the

experience of growth.”

 So allow yourself to feel the emotion.  Don’t pretend for whatever reason that you’re not feeling them – they are part of your humanity. Give yourself permission to feel the sadness, the grief, the heartache, the jealousy, the pain whatever it is.  Be kind to yourself.

Self-love here – always important.  Give yourself the time, the solitude and the situation in which you can just sit and be so you can feel and acknowledge the sensations within.  Verbalise it.  Use an affirmation to focus your intention.

I allow myself to feel this pain. 

I give myself permission to truly feel this pain. 

I am ready and willing to feel this pain.

I am ready and willing to listen to my body now.

Please note that I am not suggesting a prolonged state of “wallowing” in one’s negative emotions here but a healthy amount of acknowledgement before moving onto the next step.

2.  Process it.

Like all energy – our emotional energy wants to move, it wants to flow. Like water it will go stagnant and bad if it is prevented from flowing.  This is why it’s best to be on your own for this part.  Most good friends, however well meaning they are, will encourage you to stop crying and it’s exactly this stopping of crying that is suppressing the emotional energy.

I often see my clients and guests crying – and, to be honest, I think of it as something to be celebrated – after all, the negative energy is coming out – it’s the most healing practice our bodies have – having a good cry. It’s literally energy in motion and that’s what we want. The energy moving out – passing through our energy fields.

So crying is the number one way to process the pain. Encourage the tears as you visualise the negative emotions moving through your body and releasing.  There are a number of other ways we can process our negative emotions.

Writing in a journal is a favourite for many.  Just find yourself a pen and paper and start writing.  Write how you feel. Describe the emotions. Vent any feelings around the situation onto the paper.  You can do it in the form of a letter to a specific person or even a letter to the Universe.  Keep going, writing anything – whatever comes to mind. As you feel a wave of emotion, write it all down.  As you feel the emotions begin to subside you can turn your writing into a gratitude list and start focusing on the positive.

In addition to writing your emotions out of you, you can also sing them out!  Or dance them out – or in my case, Yoga them out!  If you set your intention (sankalpa) before your yoga practice of processing these negative emotions you will find that, firstly, you may feel the need to cry during your practice and, secondly, that you will feel heaps better afterwards. Very cathartic.

Of course, all sports and physical activity can be cathartic as is painting, drawing etc  So find your preferred outlet to process your negative emotions and you’ll even find it enjoyable to do so.

3.  Release it.

Releasing your negative emotions is pretty much dealt with during the processing stage but you can use affirmations and gratitude to confirm the release of certain emotions.

I release all negative energy from past experiences and let go of any toxic conclusions made.

I release all feelings of fear, sadness, grief, heartache, anxiety, despair…….now and set myself free.

I am grateful for the release of “this” emotional energy

Gratitude is a powerful energy.  And as “time” is just a wibbly wobbly line in reality, we can use Gratitude in Advance which is super powerful.

Thank you for the release of this emotional energy. Thank you for the lessons and growth from this pain.  I am grateful for its release now.  All is well in my world.

                                                                                             And so it is.

 

Let me know how you get on.  Please share your comments below and get in touch if you’d like help with releasing trapped emotions or coaching in how to do it for yourself.

Love and Blessings