Why is it that those closest to us seem to push our buttons more easily?
Why do we instantly “click” with some people and not others?
Why do we repeat the same issues with the same people again and again?
Are you being triggered and easily wound up by those around you?
You may see these difficult relationships as a bad thing, but believe me, they are for your own benefit.
When you understand the bigger picture and expand your beliefs, you can see that these triggers are, in fact, something to be grateful for. They are little indicators of where to focus your attention for the sake of your own self-realisation and spiritual growth.
Self-realisation is key here. We came here to express our true nature. We came here to understand who we really are at Soul level. We came here to awaken. We also agreed to play roles for each other. Out of love. Some people choose to play loving, supporting roles to help you grow. However, others, agreed to play the “bad” guys and trigger you for the sole purpose of highlighting areas of growth within you.
You see, life is a mirror. You may have heard this before and it is not an easy concept to get your head around but that doesn’t make it any less true! It’s all about YOU. And all manifestations around you including those that trigger you are constantly reflecting back to you your own beliefs. This is why positive thinking is so important. If you believe that the Universe is a safe and wonderful place then for you it will be. If you think the Universe is a dangerous and unloving place, then for you if will be. The reflection is exact. Like the mirror in the bathroom. We don’t always like what we see, right?
Our whole life experiences are stored energetically in the cells of our body and there are aspects of ourselves we don’t much care for, right? It is these aspects that will be reflected back to us in the form of difficult people. When you begin to love yourself, you find that more people around you become loving. The more you love yourself, the more loving those around you become. It’s just a reflection. This is why loving yourself is so life changing.
It is easy to have resistance to the aspects of ourselves we don’t like. It is also easy to be in denial of our shadow side. Peace, however, lies in the acknowledgment of all aspects of Self.
Understanding that difficult people are just seeing the world differently to you, helps too. Everyone is on a spiritual journey with some people more conscious than others and there’s a whole range of beliefs being created and followed along the way. Difficult people haven’t come here to make your life more difficult. They are just living their own experience. And the difficult people closest to you agreed to play the role to help you experience what you chose to experience here. If you chose to experience worthiness, for example, there are souls who incarnated with you to help you by treating you badly in order to help you wake up to the fact that you are worth more. Everything has a positive and negative polarity. We can learn a lot about happiness by not having it. We can learn a lot about empowerment by feeling powerless. It is up to us to make the right choices in life to experience the positive polarity of the things we chose to experience. This is why so many people, on reflection, can find love, forgiveness and even gratitude for those who harmed them in some way. For it was those experiences that woke them up to the understanding of their self-love, worth and deserving of better.
We reap what we sow. Karma exists. People who view themselves as victims often say to me, but I never hurt anyone so why was I victimised this way? But we have experienced numerous lives and we haven’t always been nice!! Even in this life, can you be so sure that as a child you never victimised anyone? Rather than spend your energy in denial of these truths, why not spend your energy reflecting what it is within you, that you are not accepting about yourself.
To help with this inner, self-realisation work I highly recommend The Work of Byron Katie www.thework.com
With four simple questions, your understanding of the difficult relationships in your life can not only be seen but also turned around. This process is not for the faint hearted. It’s not easy to see unpleasant aspects of yourself arise but there is no judgement. No blame. No fault. There is no right or wrong. Just a deeper understanding of what is that leads to deeper awareness, expanded consciousness and greater love. Love of self and love for others of course!
Working through the relationships or aspects of relationships that trigger you most, in this way is life changing. Understanding the role you chose to play in each others lives brings an energy of peace, acceptance, forgiveness and deeper love.
For more information on how you can heal the relationships in your life or to book your healing/coaching session please get in touch.
Only by retreating from your present life and environment,
including all the people you mix with on a regular basis, can you really
reflect upon which aspects of your life, and which people in it, are truly
serving you and which are not.
Without the influence of outside energies, you can better
get a sense of who you are and what you want out of life, as well as, who and
what may be holding you back.
Time to yourself, with none of the usual worries, routines or concerns, allows you to relax and soothe the mind, body and soul.
“Villa Rosa is nestled in the quaint village of Barraca d’Aigues Vives, Valencia. The villa has gorgeous 360-degree views. The pool looks directly upon the mountains and the terrace has sunrise and sunset views”
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As a spiritual being having a human experience, you came
here to express your true self at Soul level within your human existence. All
Retreat guests receive a FREE Soul Profile reading which helps you identify the
true nature of your Soul and how you can best express this in your everyday
life. The more channels we find to express who we are at Soul level, the
greater our abundance – and that means more love, health, wealth and happiness!
“I would really recommend this retreat if you want to connect more to yourself, your truth and your soul”
Olivia, Yoga Teacher, UK
Learning to love and accept yourself completely is the
greatest gift you can give yourself. It really is the pivotal point of the Retreat.
With simple yet effective energy healing methods, guests can release whatever energy is stopping them from loving themselves until they are energetically in alignment with the energy of self-love. The process is
different for everyone, but leaves guests with a joy filled heart and an eagerness to get on with sharing their new-found love and purpose with the world!
“I can highly recommend Deborah`s Heal yourself to Happiness Retreat to anyone looking for more positivity and (self-)love in their lives”
Anna Burchell, Yoga Teacher, Germany
Learning to release your own trapped emotions using The
Emotion Code, and being able to muscle test yourself and others, is a
life-changing skill. In addition to this, you learn other skills, concepts
and perspectives that help you utilise and optimise your life force energy,
giving you more control over your own health. These everyday skills will truly
enhance your daily life. All Retreat guests receive a FREE Heart Wall release
before arrival. This releases any blocks to receiving that you may be hanging
onto and allows you to fully open your heart to the healing energy of Love!
“Thank you so much for this life-changing experience!”
Alicia Campbell, Alberta, Canada
With over 500 hours of Yoga Therapy Teacher Training, I can
help you create your own personal yoga routine to serve your specific needs on
a physical, emotional, mental and spiritual level. Maybe your physical body
craves more movement, flexibility, balance and strength or perhaps your mind
needs calming. Or maybe you need to tap into and connect with Source, where you
can express devotion and deepen your journey within. Whether you are an
absolute beginner, or a Yoga teacher yourself, you can learn how to add meaning
and healing to your Yoga practice.
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Many people shy away from Meditation, not really understanding what it is or what it entails. Alternatively, many guests are already on their healing paths and enjoy improving their meditation and self-healing practices. Either way, I tailor make the meditation sessions for your needs so, regardless of where you are on your journey, you can access valuable guidance, healing and intuition from within you!
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Enjoy the simplicity that can be found in the beautiful
Spanish countryside. We are surrounded by stunning mountain views, orange
groves and (usually) blue skies. After all this healing and emotional release
Retreat guests can look forward to a fun day out! We take a trip to the
beautiful Santa Maria monastery in the picturesque village of
Simat-de-la-Valldigna. We visit the local street market in Tavernes before
making our way to the unspoilt, stretch of sandy beach at Tavernes Playa. A
perfect opportunity to explore, share, embrace the fresh sea air and let your
new-found love shine!
Last, but by no means least, Robert is an amazing cook and
provides Retreat guests with a warm, cooked meal each evening full of healing
ingredients, love and local produce where possible. Breakfast and lunch are
self-service in the healthily stocked kitchen with its healthily stocked
“Robert is an amazing cook”
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Anna Burchell, Germany
“..there were always lots of seasonal fruits
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week in Spain was truly eye-opening, and has helped me in my daily life ever
since” Morgan Zerr, Canada
Deborah Jane Sutton is an expert in Energy Healing and a Yoga Teacher with over 500 hours of Yoga Therapy Teacher Training. The author of two #1 Best Sellers in Energy Healing on Amazon, Heal yourself to Happiness and Heal your Soul, Deborah has both the knowledge and experience to help you learn and apply effective Self-Healing techniques and all aspects of Yoga.
Deborah's purpose is clearly with helping others on their healing path. Helping people see the bigger picture, the power within themselves and nurturing self-love are her strengths. That and her powerful love and compassion for all those who genuinely seek awareness and healing.
Everything is energy. I know I’ve said it before and I’m sure it won’t be the last time I refer back to this fact. Why? Because when we view everything as energy, it makes healing, especially energy healing, so much easier to understand. Greater understanding leads to greater awareness and greater awareness leads to greater healing and abundance.
So everything is energy including our thoughts and beliefs. Negative thoughts and beliefs vibrate at a low frequency and are toxic to our bodies. Positive thoughts, on the other hand, are high vibrating and, by the law of attraction (“Like attracts Like”) attract more positive energy to you in the form of people, experiences, desires etc
Sometimes we are aware of our negative thinking, especially when we’re beating ourselves up with negative self talk. However, much of the time we are not aware of our deep rooted beliefs. These are the beliefs we take for granted and have never questioned and these are the beliefs we were programmed with at an early age by parents/teachers/society etc. These are the sub-conscious beliefs.
Psychological Kinesiology (PSYCH-K®) is the simplest and easiest way to reprogram your subconscious mind in order to change the negative beliefs and habits that are not serving you and thus creating positive beliefs and opportunities to improve every area of your life.
Our beliefs are the foundation of who we are. These beliefs are the result of lifelong “programming,” and represent a powerful influence on human behaviour. It is from our beliefs that we form attitudes about the world and ourselves, and from these attitudes we develop behaviours and habits.
Beliefs have far-reaching consequences, both positive and negative, in every area of our life. They affect our mood, relationships, job performance, self-esteem and even physical health. It is so important that we learn how to identify beliefs that are limiting us and how to change them into beliefs that support us.
Our beliefs (or attitudes, values, etc.) are drawn from past experiences and stored in the subconscious mind. While we may be mostly unaware of their influence on us, they “direct” our actions and behaviours. These subconscious beliefs create a perceptual filter through which we respond to life’s challenges. They form the basis for our actions and reactions to each new situation in our lives.
The ability to perform effectively, both personally and professionally is profoundly affected by such beliefs as “I am good enough”, “I am safe”, “I am worthy and deserving” or “I am prosperous”. Beliefs establish the limits of what we can achieve. As Henry Ford famously once said, “If you think you can or if you think you can’t…you’re right!” This is especially true when the beliefs are subconscious.
Because our beliefs establish the limits of what we can get!
Gandhi said …
Most of us agree, and behavioural scientists confirm, that our behaviours are a direct reflection of our beliefs, perceptions and values, generated from past experiences. Scientific research has also found that the human cell actually stores memory and is capable of being reprogrammed. This is where the PSYCH-K® process does change lives.
Developed by Robert M. Williams, M.A in 1988, it was tested extensively for 10 years before being offered to the public. Using Kinesiology, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Acupressure, and various healing systems, PSYCH-K® is a safe, non-invasive, effective way to dissolve resistance to change at the subconscious level.
Basically, PSYCH-K® increases the “cross-talk” between the two brain hemispheres, thus achieving a more “whole-brained” state. This is ideal for changing subconscious beliefs and facilitates communication with both the conscious and the subconscious minds to change old sabotaging belief patterns into supportive ones. The subconscious mind accumulates and records information at over 40 million bits per second, storing memories in a timeless manner while the conscious part of our brain processes data at only 2000 bits per second and has a limited, 20-second memory capacity.
So if you have a subconscious belief that “you’re not good enough” or “you’re not worthy of the best that love and life has to offer,” it’s generating at 40 million bits per second. The conscious mind, running at 2000 bits per second, usually cannot compete. It then creates conflict between the conscious and subconscious minds resulting in stress in the cells. This stress compromises the immune system and creates dis-ease in the body. Through a series of specific balances, strategic body positioning, affirmations, and visualizations designed to bridge the right and left hemispheres of the brain, the self-limiting belief is re-scripted at the level of the subconscious until reprogramming is complete.
This process is rooted in biological mechanics. If you want to read more about this and the science behind PSYCH K®, Dr Bruce Lipton, PhD, in his book The Biology of Belief, has scientific data linking the biology of beliefs and the psychology of change.
Using Muscle Testing (Kinesiology), we can identify which positive beliefs are not in alignment with the subconscious mind. People don’t always know which negative beliefs they are hanging onto that are most sabotaging their success in life. Being able to identify these is key. Obviously, as they are subconscious beliefs, people are not aware of them. The first step of identifying the most limiting negative beliefs is, in itself, a major eye opener for some.
I have seen first hand at our Heal yourself to Happiness Retreats, on a number of occasions, the power of installing positive beliefs with this method. It can be quite emotional because at every stage of the process you are, quite literally, releasing the energy of the negative belief that has been denying the counter positive belief.
This is especially healing and life changing when installing the beliefs “I am worthy” and “I love and accept myself completely.”
Message me to book your appointment now and change your life through the power of self-love and PSYCH K®
Deborah Jane Sutton
La kinesiología psicológica (PSYCH-K®) es la forma más simple de reprogramar la mente subconsciente para poder cambiar las creencias y lo hábitos negativos que no nos están ayudando, y crear en vez, creencias y oportunidades positivas para mejorar todas la áreas de la vida.
Nuestras creencias son la base de quienes somos. Estas creencias son el resultado de la programación de toda una vida, y representan una potente influencia sobre el comportamiento humano. Son nuestras creencias las que crean nuestra actitud ante la vida, y ante nosotros mismo, y de esta actitud desarrollamos nuestro comportamiento y nuestros hábitos. Las creencias tienen consecuencias a largo plazo, tanto positivas como negativas, en todas las áreas de la vida. Afectan a nuestro humor, a nuestras relaciones, al rendimiento profesional, a la auto estima e incluso a la salud física. Es muy importante que aprendamos a identificar las creencias que nos limitan, y a cómo transformarlas en creencias que nos apoyan.
Nuestras creencias (actitud, valores, etc.), son extraídas de experiencias del pasado que han sido almacenadas en la mente subconsciente. Aunque no seamos conscientes de su influencia sobre nosotros, dirigen nuestras acciones y nuestro comportamiento. Estas creencias subconscientes crean un filtro a través del cual respondemos a los retos que nos encontramos en la vida. Ellas forman la base de nuestras acciones y reacciones a cada nueva situación de la vida. La habilidad para actuar de forma efectiva, tanto personal como profesionalmente, está en gran medida afectada por creencias como “soy suficiente”, “Estoy seguro”, “Soy valioso y merecedor de cosas buenas” o “Soy próspero”. Las creencias establecen los límites de lo que podemos conseguir. Como decía la famosa frase de Henry Ford, “Tanto si crees que puedes, como si crees que no puedes… tienes razón” Esto es especialmente cierto cuando las creencias son subconscientes.
De acuerdo con Bruce Lipton PhD, biólogo celular y reconocido autor de, “La Biología de la Creencia.” Y “El Efecto Luna de Miel”, el mayor obstáculo para obtener el éxito es la programación subconsciente de creencias que nos limitan.
¿Por qué son las creencias tan importantes.
¡Porque nuestras creencias establecen los límites de lo que podemos conseguir!
Gandhi dijo …
La mayoría de nosotros estamos de acuerdo, y los científicos que estudian el comportamiento están lo afirman, que nuestro comportamiento es un reflejo directo de nuestras creencias, percepciones y valores, generados por experiencias pasadas. Los estudios científicos también han demostrado que las células humanas tienen capacidad para almacenar información y también tienen la capacidad de ser programadas. Aquí es donde entra el PSYCH-K® y su capacidad para cambiar vidas. Fue desarrollado por Robert M. Williams, M.A en 1988, y lo probó durante 10 años antes de hacerlo público. Usando la kinesiología, la Programación Neurolingüística (NLP), Digitopuntura, y otros sistemas de sanación, el PSYCH-K® se convierte en una forma segura, no invasiva y efectiva de disolver la resistencia al cambio a nivel subconsciente.
¿Cómo funciona Psych-K®?
Fundamentalmente, el PSYCH-K® incrementa la comunicación entre ambos hemisferios del cerebro, consiguiendo así un estado más “integrado-mental”. Esto es idóneo para cambiar creencias subconscientes y facilitar la comunicación entre la mente subconsciente y la consciente para cambiar viejos patrones de creencias perjudiciales, y convertirlas en creencias que apoyan a la persona. La mente subconsciente acumula y guarda información a una velocidad de 40 millones de bits por segundo, y almacena esta información de forma permanente, mientras que la parte consciente de nuestro cerebro que procesa la información va a 2000 bits por segundo y tiene una capacidad de memoria de 20 segundos.
Así que si tienes una creencia subconsciente que dice: “No eres lo bastante bueno.” O “No te mereces lo mejor que el amor y la vida te pueden ofrecer”, se está generando a 40 millones de bits por segundo. La mente consciente, que va a 2000 bits por segundo, no puede hacerle frente. Entonces crea un conflicto entre la mente consciente y la subconsciente lo que produce estrés a nivel celular. Este estrés pone en peligro el buen funcionamiento del sistema inmunológico y crea enfermedad en el cuerpo. A través de una serie de equilibrios específicos, posiciones estratégicas corporales, afirmaciones, y visualizaciones diseñadas para crear un puente entre los dos hemisferios cerebrales, las creencias limitantes se pueden re-escribir a nivel subconsciente hasta reprogramarlas por completo.
La kinesiología puede ser muy precisa a la hora de detectar verdades subconscientes, como también para detectar estrés en el cuerpo. Ya que la mente subconsciente controla el sistema motriz del cuerpo, como el movimiento de los músculos, este mecanismo “integrado” nos proporciona información muy acertada sobre si el subconsciente está o no de acuerdo con una afirmación sobre una creencia concreta. Este proceso nace de la biología mecánica. Dr. Bruce Lipton, PhD, posee información científica que une a la biología de las creencias con el cambio psicológico. El PSYCH-K® permite y proporciona la capacidad de tomar control sobre la vida. Cambiando la programación, creas la vida que deseas, de forma rápida, sin esfuerzo y sin la necesidad de tomar medicamentos o psicoterapia.
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The first of my “physical” issues to be healed by The Emotion Code (Energy Healing System) was my underactive Thyroid Gland. I had been told 8 years previously that I would need to take medication for the rest of my life to raise my level of Thyroxine. With one session of The Emotion Code and with the release of 5 trapped emotions* my Thyroid Gland was balanced and from that day on produced “normal levels” of thyroxine.
Personally I found it a real relief to be drug free – it has saved me a lot of time visiting doctors, repeat prescriptions and going to the Pharmacy! We should all strive to avoid pharmaceutical drugs if we can, don’t you think?
(*For further information on “What is a Trapped Emotion” and “inherited trapped emotions” click here.)
The second “physical” issue was eczema. I have written the word “physical” in inverted commas because as we can see, these “physical” ailments actually had an “emotional” cause. Anyway, the eczema would flare up when I was overtired or stressed and would appear in little patches on the back of my neck.
Well, while using the Emotion Code to release the underlying cause of the eczema a few trapped emotions came up as well as an inherited trapped emotion* from my maternal gene line which is no surprise really because both my mother and grandmother suffered from the same eczema patch when they were stressed.
Another “physical” issue healed with the Emotion Code was one of weight. We can use The Emotion Code to release the underlying causes of weight too. I should point out that there are many ways to release trapped emotions but in my opinion The Emotion Code is the fastest, most thorough and most effective. A session of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), however, helped me release some intense emotions which kick started my weight loss and further sessions using The Emotion Code enabled the weight loss to continue – 20 kilos in total!
It’s not so much weight loss that occurs but rather I lost the need to eat so much – I became very aware of when I had eaten enough and was physically full whereas before I had been trying to satisfy my emotional hunger not just my physical hunger and I couldn’t tell the difference. Now, if I find myself overeating I realise it’s an emotional issue and can use The Emotion Code to release the relevant trapped emotions.
Sometimes we are aware that we have trapped emotions, for example, of grief when someone we love dies. We have all seen (and some of us felt) the process when grief takes its course but when we think we may not have processed it all completely The Emotion Code is ideal for releasing emotions still trapped and lodged in our bodies long after our loss. Also, from any traumatic experiences we know we’ve been scarred from eg divorce, war (PTSD), violent scenes, bullying.
I have used The Emotion Code to release unprocessed emotions from traumas in my life including grief when my father died. Sometimes we don’t know we’ve trapped emotions from certain events in our life and often I find people deny they have trapped emotions, almost as if it’s some kind of weakness to have them. EVERYBODY has trapped emotions – you can trap an emotion after losing your favourite toy as an infant, from anxiety on your first day at school, from a parent or teacher raising their voice at you – everybody has them! And once we’ve trapped one, other emotions of the same vibrational frequency will be attracted so causing a blockage to the natural healing energy of the body. This is how mal-function and illness occur.
I used to experience panic attacks whenever I got on a plane or found myself in places where I couldn’t get out. This issue took a few sessions to heal completely and was finally resolved after releasing trapped emotions of Panic and Shock from previous lives. (Weird but true!)
I’m going to include The Heart Wall here – under “Emotionally”. Once bitten twice shy. We all protect ourselves by building a Wall around our Hearts. They can be very effective at keeping pain and heartbreak out but unfortunately they work both ways and keep us from feeling TRUE love and joy and this, by the Law of Attraction, prevents us from attracting TRUE love and joy into our hearts.
Once I had released my Heart Wall using The Emotion Code I learned how to love myself (this is a BIG one for anyone who wants to Heal anything and move forward with their life) and with this new raised vibration of love and joy I attracted my, now, husband into my life! I have seen this happen for so many of my clients too, when their Heart Walls have been removed. I love it!
When using the Emotion Code we can ask simply if there are any blocks to receiving, having, earning, keeping money or any blocks to moving forward, fulfilling our purpose, realising our dreams etc Sometimes we may need to refer to The Body Code as these can often be limiting subconscious beliefs that we picked up in childhood eg I’m not worthy, money is the root of all evil, I can’t………………….etc But very often it is FEAR which holds us back and this can be released with The Emotion Code. Fear of the unknown, fear of trusting in the process of life, fear of failure – there are many kinds of fear holding us back.
When I wanted to give up my day job to concentrate on my passion, my calling which is to Heal and teach Healing techniques I was overwhelmed with “fear”. How will I make ends meet? What if I fail? I used The Emotion Code to release this inevitable fear and other trapped emotions when I took my “Leap of Faith”. It was exciting, challenging and I felt the need to stay focussed but I wasn’t fearful and I have certainly NEVER regretted it!
The Emotion Code really has changed all areas of my life for the better. I often turn to it to raise my vibrations or in times of need and not just for me. My family members have also improved their health with Emotion Code sessions. Even the dog is no longer scared of the vet!
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Love and Blessings
As an Energy Healer who specialises in Emotional Healing with The Emotion Code, I talk a lot about trapped emotions: in particular, what they are, how they get trapped and how to release them.
However, I have also been asked by many clients, who have cleared a load of trapped emotions, how they can prevent trapping more emotions in the future especially when “life just happens”. This is an interesting and practical concept and one that I have found a need for myself recently so here is my simple but essential 3 step guide to avoiding the energy of negative emotions from lodging in your body somewhere, causing you blockages, mal-function and illness.
We’re here to express ourselves at Soul level through our humanity and that involves embracing life and all it has to offer. You can read extensively about how we can prevent a lot of negative energy and emotions in the first place by choosing our friends carefully, learning to meditate to maintain more peace within and by generally avoiding negative situations and drama etc.
This is all very well but sometimes negative emotions still creep in and you know what, sometimes, even, they are meant to. Life is not about avoiding negative emotions all together – some, eg: grief, go hand in hand with positive emotions – so they cannot be avoided. It’s about knowing how to deal with them when they arise so their energy can pass through you and not get stuck.
Like all energy (including us) emotional energy wants to be acknowledged. It wants to be noticed, appreciated, maybe learned from, maybe acted upon but whatever else you do with it, it wants to be acknowledged.
Too often in our culture we are encouraged to hide our emotions – big boys don’t cry, stiff upper lip and pull yourself together etc. This is exactly how we stop negative energy from passing through our fields and causing it to lodge somewhere within us – only to cause us issues later in life.
Maybe we feel we shouldn’t feel a certain way because other people have it worse or maybe we judge ourselves too harshly by believing we shouldn’t feel a certain way.
But you know what – it doesn’t matter what other people are feeling or not feeling – comparing ourselves to others is never a good thing. And judging ourselves is just another form of self criticism, is it not? Another form of self-abuse and beating ourselves up. Definitely to be avoided at all costs.
Sometimes we just don’t want to admit to feeling a certain way eg: jealousy. Or maybe we just don’t like the feeling negative emotions give us and we choose to bury them so as not to feel them. But that’s the whole point of negative emotions – they have come to us to be felt. They have come to us for us to process. They have come to us as a message from our bodies, from our hearts – a message we need to heed in order to grow.
So allow yourself to feel the emotion. Don’t pretend for whatever reason that you’re not feeling them – they are part of your humanity. Give yourself permission to feel the sadness, the grief, the heartache, the jealousy, the pain whatever it is. Be kind to yourself.
Self-love here – always important. Give yourself the time, the solitude and the situation in which you can just sit and be so you can feel and acknowledge the sensations within. Verbalise it. Use an affirmation to focus your intention.
I allow myself to feel this pain.
I give myself permission to truly feel this pain.
I am ready and willing to feel this pain.
I am ready and willing to listen to my body now.
Please note that I am not suggesting a prolonged state of “wallowing” in one’s negative emotions here but a healthy amount of acknowledgement before moving onto the next step.
Like all energy – our emotional energy wants to move, it wants to flow. Like water it will go stagnant and bad if it is prevented from flowing. This is why it’s best to be on your own for this part. Most good friends, however well meaning they are, will encourage you to stop crying and it’s exactly this stopping of crying that is suppressing the emotional energy.
I often see my clients and guests crying – and, to be honest, I think of it as something to be celebrated – after all, the negative energy is coming out – it’s the most healing practice our bodies have – having a good cry. It’s literally energy in motion and that’s what we want. The energy moving out – passing through our energy fields.
So crying is the number one way to process the pain. Encourage the tears as you visualise the negative emotions moving through your body and releasing. There are a number of other ways we can process our negative emotions.
Writing in a journal is a favourite for many. Just find yourself a pen and paper and start writing. Write how you feel. Describe the emotions. Vent any feelings around the situation onto the paper. You can do it in the form of a letter to a specific person or even a letter to the Universe. Keep going, writing anything – whatever comes to mind. As you feel a wave of emotion, write it all down. As you feel the emotions begin to subside you can turn your writing into a gratitude list and start focusing on the positive.
In addition to writing your emotions out of you, you can also sing them out! Or dance them out – or in my case, Yoga them out! If you set your intention (sankalpa) before your yoga practice of processing these negative emotions you will find that, firstly, you may feel the need to cry during your practice and, secondly, that you will feel heaps better afterwards. Very cathartic.
Of course, all sports and physical activity can be cathartic as is painting, drawing etc So find your preferred outlet to process your negative emotions and you’ll even find it enjoyable to do so.
Releasing your negative emotions is pretty much dealt with during the processing stage but you can use affirmations and gratitude to confirm the release of certain emotions.
I release all negative energy from past experiences and let go of any toxic conclusions made.
I release all feelings of fear, sadness, grief, heartache, anxiety, despair…….now and set myself free.
I am grateful for the release of “this” emotional energy
Gratitude is a powerful energy. And as “time” is just a wibbly wobbly line in reality, we can use Gratitude in Advance which is super powerful.
Thank you for the release of this emotional energy. Thank you for the lessons and growth from this pain. I am grateful for its release now. All is well in my world.
And so it is.
Let me know how you get on. Please share your comments below and get in touch if you’d like help with releasing trapped emotions or coaching in how to do it for yourself.
Love and Blessings