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Why Energy Healers don’t and can’t offer Guarantees

I often get asked how many sessions it will take for a symptom to heal through Energy Healing.  I have also had people tell me that they will agree to have Energy Healing sessions with me if I can guarantee their success!  Well, sorry to say, no can do.  There are no guarantees.

The sceptics seem to think they have won some sort of battle when we say there are no guarantees, as if, somehow, that proves a lack of faith in ourselves or, indeed, in our work.  However, the truth is quite to the contrary.

When working with you, an Energy Healer is doing just that – working with you – and your energy field.  You have ultimate control over your energy field.  In fact, you have always had ultimate control over your energy field.  Even when you got sick in the first place.  Sorry, but true – you just didn’t know it at the time.

Our energy fields and our bodies are a mish mash of energy flowing around – some of it positive and some of it negative. Some of it vibrating at a higher frequency level than other parts of it. Some of it therefore, healthy and some of it, therefore, unhealthy.

My job, as an Energy Healer, is to help you release the negative, unhealthy energy from your energy field and help you promote the input of more positive, healthy energy.  Pain and emotional symptoms are simply the result of your body telling you, you have something negative to release. Your body is telling you that you have a resistance to healing. Our bodies naturally self heal but we sometimes put up some kind of resistance to this healing and that’s where our pain comes from.  Either way, it’s a simple case of taking out the negative, removing the resistance and putting in the positive.

It’s a bit like being in a boat with a small hole in it where the unwanted water is getting in.  At first, not a big problem – but after a while, that input of unwanted water (negative energy) causes the boat to sink.  If the boat owner doesn’t know what to do with their own boat, they call in someone to help.  The helper then starts to scoop out the unwanted water from one end of the boat.

Some boat owners, aware of how things work, help by working out how to block up the hole and they also begin to scoop the unwanted water away. They sometimes have to get their hands dirty and probably follow advice they are not comfortable with – it isn’t always easy – but working together solves the problem as quickly as possible.

However, sometimes, when the boat owner doesn’t understand how these things work, they ignore the hole in the bottom of the boat – the original cause of the problem – and they just sit and watch as the helper consistently releases unwanted water from the vessel.  Success in this scenario, of course, will be short term and long term relief will be limited.

There are even cases when the boat owner doesn’t just sit and watch the helper but actually sabotages the operation by taking a container, much larger than the helper’s, and scooping up unwanted water from outside the boat to put into the boat!

What kind of boat owner are you?

So, if anything, Energy Healers should be asking you for guarantees.  Can you guarantee to take an interest in your own boat? Learn how it works and help fix it?

If you are in the process of fixing your boat and would like help with this please get in touch.

Love and Blessings,



PS Talking of boats………here’s a lovely yet profound clip for you……………Enjoy! xx

Getting Rid of your Emotional Baggage

We all have Emotional Baggage or at least we have all had Emotional Baggage at some stage in our lives.  Many deny it, others think they are “over it” but whichever way you look at it we have all been hurt, let down, lied to, disappointed, lost, heartbroken, upset, angry, frustrated, scared, sad, betrayed, anxious, insecure, confused, taken for granted, unsupported, shocked, humiliated, jealous, guilty, discouraged, nervous or helpless at some point.  It is nothing to be ashamed of – it’s life!  Sometimes we can work through these emotions and the energy of the emotion releases naturally from our energy field.  However, there are other times when for one reason or another, we can’t or we don’t process the emotion fully and the energy from that emotion gets stuck in our body somewhere. This can have both a physical and emotional effect on us.  When we trap a number of emotions this way,  the energy of the trapped emotions can literally block the flow of our life force energy and this can cause mal-function, disease and other physical symptoms.  Emotionally these trapped emotions can affect us by triggering and exaggerating our responses.  If we have trapped emotions of anxiety we will feel more anxious more easily, trapped emotions of resentment will make us feel resentment more easily, trapped emotions of guilt will make us feel guilty more easily and trapped emotions of heartache will make us feel hurt more easily.

Once bitten twice shy is another good example of the effects of trapped emotions.  If you have been hurt once you will protect yourself from being hurt again.  This is all very well you may think but when you offer to the Universe a protected and guarded heart, by the Law of Attraction (Like attracts Like) you will attract, to you, someone with a protected and guarded heart.  Not the best foundation for a long term, loving, and joyful relationship, eh?

It’s not just our relationships that suffer – trapped emotions can also affect our moods, weight, health, flexibility and level of consciousness.

So, now we have acknowledged that we are harbouring these trapped emotions what can we do about them?  Well, there are many ways to release this negative energy from our energy field.  All Holistic Therapies revolve around releasing this tension and stress as does exercise (Yoga is a powerful tool for this).  In my opinion, Energy healing is the most effective way to release trapped emotions.  Again, there are many forms of Energy healing but my favourites are The Emotion Code and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).  Having a course of such healing sessions will certainly result in healing on a number of levels and your mind, body and spirit will benefit enormously.  However, long term Energy healing sessions can get quite expensive and leave you reliant on others to “do” the healing for you even if they are just acting as an energy channel for you.  This is why I am so passionate about Coaching my clients in Self Healing Techniques so that they can release their own Emotional Baggage and release physical and emotional symptoms and negative energies that are holding them back from their true greatness.

I am a firm believer that the power is within YOU.  Everything is energy.  We are energy. Our emotions and our thoughts are energy. Feelings are energy. Food is energy. Colours have energy. Crystals and oils have energy. Words carry energy. Rooms have energy. Our imagination carries energy. Our intention is energy. Our positive intentions combined with positive emotions, thoughts and beliefs are a truly powerful force.  Whether you call it “The Secret”, The Law of Attraction, Energy Laws or Common Sense – this knowledge and how to apply it to your life is of the utmost importance if you want to be able to manifest the health, prosperity and love you desire in life.

Our Heal yourself to Happiness Retreats provide the perfect opportunity for you to learn and practice valuable Energy healing techniques as well as learning about the Law of Attraction and manifesting through Love and Gratitude.  The Retreats run for 6 days from Sunday to Saturday with practical Energy healing Workshops each morning and visiting experts in other aspects of Energy healing giving evening talks twice during the week.  Each day begins with a Yoga Therapy class so you can learn how to Heal your Mind, Body and Spirit with movement and breath.

The afternoons are Free time and can be spent enjoying the beautiful mountain scenery around the pool, playing tennis, hiking, cycling (bikes provided) or exploring the local area with excursions to our nearby, unspoilt, sandy beaches or stunning local Monastery.  Alternatively, you could spend your free time having a relaxing massage, reflexology or other rejuvenating treatment at our onsite Salon where we offer 25% discounts to Retreat guests.

All in all a stay at our Heal yourself to Happiness Retreat will raise your vibrations and empower you with the skills needed to truly Heal yourself to Happiness.  You will have the opportunity to let go of old baggage like never before and you will inspire yourself with your own ability to heal yourself and attract what you want into your life.  You will feel more connected, motivated and passionate about life and your purpose.  And when you are in alignment with your Life Purpose, abundance appears in all its glory.

And so it is.

Love and Blessings


How does Energy Healing work over distance?

energy healingThe easy answer to this frequently asked question is that “We are all connected”. However, this notion often produces the other frequently asked question of “How are we all connected?”

Firstly, to understand how we are all connected, we need to understand that everything is energy. This concept is already a difficult one to get our heads round, especially as most of us will be sitting on what seems like a solid chair at the moment but, nonetheless, it remains a well documented scientific fact – everything is energy. Not only is everything energy but that energy is vibrating at various different frequencies. The Law of Attraction (Plato – “likes tend toward likes” circa 391 BC) explains that whatever frequency we give out, we will receive, which is why positive things gravitate towards positive people and vice versa. Whatever we focus our minds on we will receive/become (too many people to reference for this one because it is so well documented but suffice to say Buddha, Louise Hay and Mike Dooley have, among many, been attributed with quoting this fact!) If you have 2 people, one full of positivity and the other down in the dumps, after a while they will find a common frequency – either the positive one will feel worse (in effect they have been drained of their positive energy) – or the miserable one will feel better. We all have people, places and things that make us feel better – that raise our vibrations – good friends, the beach, sunrises, pets, our favourite armchair, etc (even though that armchair is vibrating at a different frequency to us and appears solid!) So this shows we can see and feel the energy around us on an everyday level.

So, how does this apply over distance? Well the roots to this answer lie in Quantum Physics and with 2 main Quantum theories in particular. The first one being that of Nonlocality – (which Einstein referred to as “spooky action at a distance”) and the second being that of Entanglement. Now, I for one, am no Quantum Physicist and I’m guessing not many people reading this are either so I’m not going to even attempt to get into the nitty gritty of these Sciencific concepts and the evidence they provide but, please feel free to google them. In short, it has been seen that what effects one particle in one locality also effects another, seemingly separate particle (atom, photon, molecule….energy) in another locality. The Entanglement concept is seen more commonly in new mums who can “sense” when their babies need them or with twins who can “sense” the feelings of each other.

I will, however, quote the internationally recognised cell biologist and leader in bridging science and spirit, Bruce H. Lipton PhD, who has, in my opinion, summed it all up beautifully in the 2nd chapter of his latest book “The Honeymoon Effect” (2013) titled Good Vibrations,

“…once a quantum particle interacts (or in quantum language, “entangles”) with another particle, no matter how many miles apart they are, (that is nonlocal), their mechanical states remain coupled. If, for example, one particle’s rotational spin is clockwise, its entangled twin’s rotational spin is the opposite, counterclockwise……………No matter how much distance separates them, when the polarity or the rotation of one particle’s spin changes, the polarity or rotation of its twin changes simultaneously as well, even if one is in Paris and the other is in Beijing.”

I cannot feasibly or legally quote the whole chapter here but it is, in my opinion after considerable research into this phenomenon, the best explanation to us lay people that I have found to date and it is less than £8 to buy online so I urge anyone still struggling with this question to invest in it. (The book also continues to explain how to keep the romance alive in your relationships – hence the title)

When healing over distance (or indeed carrying out a scientific experiment to prove the above theories) one needs to hold focused thought about what they are doing – energy healers call it “Intention” but its purpose goes back to the fact that thoughts are energy and positive thoughts attract like and, then, that inter connectedness that we all have becomes stronger.

I’m not sure how well this has answered the questions for you – I can only explain it as I see it and as I have stated earlier, I am no scientist but for those of you still not sure, I have to ask the question, “Why not just believe?”. Afterall, I do not really understand electricity but I know, believe and expect the light to come on when I flick the switch. I do not really understand how the internet works but I know, believe and expect some answers when I “google” stuff……and there are millions of people, maybe you’re one of them (?) who don’t really understand the chemistry behind their prescription drugs yet still “believe” and “expect” them to work. (We are now touching on the concepts of the “Placebo Effect” which may well be a relevant topic to explore…………….but that’s another story!)

To quote Bruce Lipton again (and the Lion King!) in conclusion,

“Once we accept the fact that we are fundamentally energetic beings inextricably connected to the vast, dynamic energetic field we are part of, we can no longer view ourselves as powerless, isolated individuals.”

In other words, we are all connected and we have power within this energy connection of ours. If you are still in doubt, I can only say, try it – go on, flick the switch and see!distance healing

The Heart Wall (and Why You Need to Release Yours)

heart wallWe have referred to the concept of a wall around our hearts metaphorically for years and the phrase “Once Bitten Twice Shy” carries truth for many of us. We protect ourselves from heartbreak and pain by “switching off” our feelings and in some more severe cases we can live life “comfortably numb”.

What many people don’t realise is that we can and do literally build a wall of negative energy (trapped emotions) around our hearts to prevent painful, negative emotions from reaching the heart. This may seem, initially, a very practical thing to do in some cases but you need to realise – by preventing negative emotions from entering the heart, the wall is also blocking positive emotions from entering and not only that, but the wall works both ways – it also blocks positive emotions from radiating out from the heart.

Now we all know that “Like attracts Like” – we may not believe it or understand it but it is a scientific fact that just “happens” so……..

We are all energy (everything is energy – another scientific fact we need to get our heads round!) and all energy vibrates at certain frequencies – stay with me here I promise it’s not too complicated!!

Emotions are energy that vibrate too and the more positive the emotion the higher the vibration eg the feeling of love vibrates at a higher frequency than the feelings of shame and guilt for example.

The more positive energy we have, the more positive energy we radiate and the more positive energy we attract. So……………

Back to the heart and its wall. By releasing the negative energy creating your Heart Wall we can allow positive energy to radiate out from the Heart (naturally occurring Love and Joy for example) which will attract true Love and Joy from others in the form of Mr or Mrs Right (Soulmate) and more positive experiences in general.

If you radiate out to the world your “protected” heart with its limited feeling you will attract someone with the same issues (again and again!) thus continuing your negative behavioural pattern in all areas of your life but in particular with your relationships. So now you know why you keep attracting the wrong relationships.

Release your Heart Wall and, not only will you break that cycle of wrong partners, but you can also feel more love, joy and peace in all areas of your life.

In my experience of working with The Emotion Code I have found that releasing the Heart Wall is the first port of call, so to speak, when seeking healing in any area of your life. The Heart is really the centre of our being – phyiscally, emotionally and energetically so the effects of releasing the Heart Wall can be felt in all areas of life on all levels. 

As an Emotion Code practitioner releasing Heart Walls is what I do best!! But in additon to that, I am passionate about teaching others to use this amazing emotional healing technique for themselves. It’s so simple to learn and amazingly effective and empowering. I teach The Emotion Code on my Retreats and in my online courses and also through my local Workshops. I am passionate about helping others Heal themselves to Happiness!

I see The Emotion Code as being a life-changing life skill that will not only improve your life, but allows you to help those you love too. 

Whether you book a healing session with me or learn how to use The Emotion Code for yourself at one of my Workshops, releasing your Heart Wall enables you to enjoy the freedom and joy that comes with having a truly open heart.

Love and Blessings


*please note that to be a qualified Emotion Code practitioner you will need to complete the online Certification program with Dr Bradley Nelson’s team


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What is a Trapped Emotion – The Emotion Code

The Emotion Code (devised by Dr Bradley Nelson) is an example of Energy psychology, and like other holistic therapies, treatments and systems it revolves around releasing trapped emotions (negative energy) from the body.

To understand what a trapped emotion is we must first understand that EVERYTHING is energy – well, we don’t need to understand it exactly but to recognise it as the scientific fact that it is. Let’s face it, most of us don’t really understand how electricity works but we know and believe the light will come on when we flick the switch. We know we’ll get some answers when we “google” a question without really understanding how the internet works. In addition to everything being energy, everything vibrates at different frequencies – the higher the better – so there is truth in the popular phrases “good vibes” and “bad vibes”- good vibes being things that make us feel better ie raise our vibrations and bad vibes being the ones that lower our vibrations and leave us feeling worse.

Now we come to the fact that everything – even abstract things – are made of energy and have vibrations – namely our EMOTIONS and THOUGHTS. When we think a thought we are actually letting that energy pass through our bodies – good thoughts will be higher in vibrations and therefore healthier for us which is why POSITIVE THINKING is such a big deal.

It’s not easy to control our thoughts and there has been a lot of research into this. My two favourites are the wonderful pioneer in this field Louise Hay who recommends repeating positive affirmations which, in my experience definitely work although more recent developments and techniques have proved to be much quicker. Secondly, the amazing Bruce Lipton PhD who is currently bridging the perceived gap between science and spirituality with his work on the physical effects of our emotions and thoughts (The Biology of Belief, 2007).

Anyway, I digress. The point is that when we feel something (emotion) it is in the form of energy passing through our bodies. Sometimes, in the case of severe trauma or bereavement for example, we don’t or can’t fully process an emotion and our bodies shut down. Perhaps we just go “numb” or we deny ourselves the right to feel that way and we bury the feeling deep inside. Well, it may help you to function better at the time but that’s a big ball of negative energy to be “buried” in the body. It has to go somewhere and this, in itself, is an interesting realisation. Where does the negative energy decide to lodge itself?

If the body already has a weak area then the new negative energy will most commonly find its way there – creating a nest of emotions – over time creating a bigger and bigger blockage to the naturally flowing positive energy that’s trying to pass around the body. This blockage then creates an imbalance where pain, mal-function and disease can occur. The actual location within the body can also be relevant to the emotions being trapped. It has been well documented that different organs and glands in the body relate to different emotions. For example, the bladder and fear (hence people want to wee themselves when scared), the lungs and sorrow, liver and anger and so on.

When we think about our most traumatic times it is easier to understand that we may well have trapped negative emotions. For example, the feeling of rejection or betrayal after a relationship break up or the emotion of abandonment when our mother doesn’t defend us as a child against a violent step father………but these trapped emotions can also be from less significant events. A 3 year old who has lost his favourite toy could trap emotions of lost, anxiety or despair. Or a small child getting lost in a shop could trap emotions of panic – and we have all experienced these things.

We can also have compounded trapped emotions. Once we have trapped an emotion, the next time we feel that emotion it compounds with the existing trapped emotion to make the feeling more intense. Counsellors commonly call this concept ” Big Bells Little Bells” when we over react to a situation because the small emotion we are feeling is triggering off a larger trapped emotion from within. This can also make us more vulnerable to trapping that emotion again in the future.

Furthermore, to complicate matters we also have “inherited trapped emotions” which are basically passed onto us at the time of conception from either biological parent. They too, could have inherited it from their parents and it is common to find these inherited trapped emotions spanning back through the generations. Releasing these inherited emotions can often bring immediate relief to ailments – it’s almost as if they have built up strength and impact as they have passed down the gene line and it is important to note that once released they have been released from the WHOLE gene line forwards as well as backwards. The thought of inheriting negative energy from our parents is always easier to handle than the thought of passing it onto our children. This passing on of negative energy to our children can often fill us with guilt but luckily The Emotion Code gives us a quick, easy and effective way to release this harmful, negative energy and bring about natural healing and balance to the body thus promoting good health in all areas of our lives.

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